When the Motherhood Ship has Sailed...
Between the lines of truth I shared here - about how my husband and I started dating and carried an understanding that we don't want kids, and how my decision was only temporarily stirred when I watched some of my friends have babies - lies the unspoken fact that it's a far-fetched idea for me to have one. Finding this out gave more weight to the reasons why we're a childless couple, and the reality is that it's just easier to say that "we don't want them" then explain how I have a rare medical anomaly who's case is now being used in teaching gynaecology.
|Regardless of my personal decision to not have children,|
this was life-altering news accompanied by a period of looking within while I went through
the string of tests & surgeries to gain full clarity of the medical anomaly it is.
And along with that news: the other reality is that between my age and the challenge this situation presents, the likelihood of having a successful pregnancy is low. So I quickly realized how so many other women must feel; when they're ready and willing to have a child, but find out that it's can't be that simple for them. There is something about that decision being made for you that causes a mental pain that only adds more questions than it answers.
|All too often, expectations are what teaches us that we're "nothing"|
unless we procreate. But not having children doesn't take away from life...
it only means we're experiencing it differently. We ALL make the best we can out of the life we have.
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