New Year's Resolutions
- Keep a journal - Not just for venting and immortalizing your inner truths, but to record your common negative self-talk statements. When you identify a saying (example: "you're not strong enough to ..."), nip it in the butt by dissecting it. Lean into the perspective of how unhelpful and sabotaging it is, recognizing the complete lack of evidence as you're here in this process to prove the opposite. If it helps - get angry, invoke Warrior energy, and prove this wrong!
- Look inwards - It's important to be very clear with yourself on why you want to achieve the goal you're aiming for. When you're only half in, you're not as invested and prone to give up along the way. When you're not 100% certain on why you're doing it, then it becomes easier to abandon the goal and possibly easier to disregard the goal in the future. Having a goal with a positive result, reward & outlook awaiting you makes it easier to undergo the process.
- Trace habits back - A lot of the deeply rooted, hard to remove habits, such as addictions can be traced back to experiences in our youth. Many learned their bad habits from it being normalized in their upbringing and surroundings, and thus didn't have proper opportunity to question it and know any different. As such with traumatic childhood experiences, many habits are formed as coping methods and thus end up being even harder to break for that reason. You may have to do some soul searching and become a little uncomfortable - for your sake - but you will want to identify the source & starting point of bad habits to understand the WHY.
- Know it can't be RIGHT AWAY - As an impatient person, I have to throw this in here! ANY transformation takes time, and trying to speed it up only makes things spiral out of control. Accept that it takes time to achieve a goal, and accept that you may need to find new activities to occupy & pass this time; if that's what you need to do. Just as every butterfly emerges after a period of time cocooned, you too need to prime during your process before finally seeing the end-goal results you're looking for.